How did my mother-in-law lose 30 pounds when she was completely sedentary? I’ll tell you, but let me tell you first what not to do. Why begin there? Permanently changing your weight (or any other significant health goal) takes a lifetime commitment. You don’t know what life will bring, so the best way to attack the problem is by doing the best you can every day until you really have changed your habits permanently.

What You Don’t Have to Do

When you’re ready to make a change in your lifestyle, especially to lose weight, you don’t have to announce it on social media. If you want to keep track of your progress and do something with that information later, fine. But not everyone responds the same way to social scrutiny and it can be brutal. The only person you ever have to be accountable to is yourself.

You don’t have to throw out everything that’s in your refrigerator or freezer or clean out your pantry. It’s a good idea to get rid of the food that’s two years or more past its “best by” date, but that’s it.

You don’t have to follow any specific diet or exercise program when you start. Eat a little bit less and move a little bit more.

Understanding How to Start

Whether you want to lose weight, lower your cholesterol, reduce your risk of type 2 diabetes, you start slow and you add a little bit to it each day.

Think about this related to weight loss. You can’t fast (by the most common definition of fasting—abstaining from food) long enough to lose all the weight that you want to lose. It wouldn’t be healthy not to eat. Your body’s going to continue to produce waste products and you need nutrients, fresh nutrients, to help it do that.

What you can do is improve the quality of your diet a servings of grapes per day or a small salad before your meal to help suppress your appetite. Every small step is an important one. The catch is that you have to maintain it. So whether it’s a serving of grapes one day and strawberries the next and blueberries after that, add that serving of fruit every day. Or vegetables. Or nuts and seeds. You have to change your eating style permanently.

Turns out, losing weight that way takes some time. But let me ask you this question: did you sit down at a table one day and decide that you were going to overeat and overeat and overeat every second of every day so that you could put on 25, 50, or 100 pounds? Of course you didn’t. What makes you think you can take it off all at once? You have to do it one bite at a time, one meal at a time, one day at a time, just like you put it on.

The Bottom Line

I’m sure you’ve figured out why my mother-in-law was able to lose weight even though conventional exercise wasn’t an option: she consistently ate less than her body needed to maintain her weight. She stopped eating desserts and snacks and didn’t go back for seconds. Even though her body wasn’t as strong as it had been, she still had the mental toughness to stick to her plan, and it worked.

Consistency—what a concept! No fad diet, no keto or paleo, just consistently eating more of the healthier food and avoiding empty calories. I’ll say it again: it was, it is, and it will always be about the calories. It all comes down to a single question:

What are you prepared to do today?

        Dr. Chet

P.S. There’s a new Straight Talk on Health for Members and Insiders, and I’ve done something a little different. I took the Memos from the week and expanded on what I wrote. More about how my mother-in-law was able to lose weight while being sedentary and tips for other goals such as decreasing pre-diabetes and high blood pressure. If you don’t have a membership, this would be a good time to start.